He Wants to Please You

Here are some more notes, from "7 Things He'll Never Tell You" by Dr. Kevin Leman, that I want to remember:

• "Your husband wants to have sex with you for his own sexual relief. But even more than he wants his own pleasure, he wants to please you. He enjoys seeing how much you enjoy the pleasure he can give you... If he fails to do that, he'll end up feeling inadequate, lonely, and unloved."
• That means your guy wants to be romantic, but he may be worried that he can't pull it off. That he won't know what to do or that he'll fail... So if you're smart, you'll help him."
• "HOW TO GROW YOUR OWN CRAVING FOR SEX: A fulfilling sex life is one of the most powerful marital glues a couple can have. But often the biggest enemies of sex among women are being too busy, tired, and stressed. One women's magazine puts it best: 'What's the first thing to go when you're busy, tired , and stressed? If you said sex, you're not alone. An estimated 24 million American women say they don't have time, are too exhausted, or just aren't in the mood for sex, and more than a third of Redbook readers say that being too tired is their number-one excuse for not having sex. So we put it off for later -- but later can easily become never. In case you haven't noticed abstinence doesn't make the loins grow hotter, it just begets more abstinence. Sex on the other hand, begets more sex. Studies show that lovemaking elevates the levels of brain chemicals associated with desire. So the best way to increase your yearning for sex is to have it.'"
• "Having a great sex life is an exhilarating experience; it can bond a husband and wife like cement until there is nothing that they won't do for each other."