Following God with Courage

"This is my command--be strong and courageous! Do not be

afraid or discouraged. For the LORD your God is with you wherever you go." -- Joshua 1:9 (NLT)

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

He Wants to Please You

Here are some more notes, from "7 Things He'll Never Tell You" by Dr. Kevin Leman, that I want to remember:
  • "Your husband wants to have sex with you for his own sexual relief. But even more than he wants his own pleasure, he wants to please you. He enjoys seeing how much you enjoy the pleasure he can give you... If he fails to do that, he'll end up feeling inadequate, lonely, and unloved."
  • That means your guy wants to be romantic, but he may be worried that he can't pull it off. That he won't know what to do or that he'll fail... So if you're smart, you'll help him."
  • "HOW TO GROW YOUR OWN CRAVING FOR SEX: A fulfilling sex life is one of the most powerful marital glues a couple can have. But often the biggest enemies of sex among women are being too busy, tired, and stressed. One women's magazine puts it best: 'What's the first thing to go when you're busy, tired , and stressed? If you said sex, you're not alone. An estimated 24 million American women say they don't have time, are too exhausted, or just aren't in the mood for sex, and more than a third of Redbook readers say that being too tired is their number-one excuse for not having sex. So we put it off for later -- but later can easily become never. In case you haven't noticed abstinence doesn't make the loins grow hotter, it just begets more abstinence. Sex on the other hand, begets more sex. Studies show that lovemaking elevates the levels of brain chemicals associated with desire. So the best way to increase your yearning for sex is to have it.'"
  • "Having a great sex life is an exhilarating experience; it can bond a husband and wife like cement until there is nothing that they won't do for each other."

Monday, May 24, 2010

Husband Encouragement for Week of May 24

Husband Encouragement

  • Find one way to bless him everyday.
  • Pray that he hears from God and has close fellowship with Him everyday.
  • Admire him and speak to him through the "lenses" of admiration.
  • Show him how I need him and thank him often.
  • Wear something special for him.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Husband Encouragement for Week of May 17

  • Submit to him as to the Lord.
  • Put his needs above my own not matter how I feel!
  • Fold laundry
  • Have a joyful and inviting spirit both in the morning and when I pick him up from work.
  • Ask him how his day was and allow him to relax and take a shower before any demands are put on him, as well as not dumping my day on him until he asks.
  • Do something special for him everyday…
  • Pray diligently for him through out the day, for him to be a light at work and for his faith and decisions.
  • Strive to have a meek and quiet spirit!!
  • Speak only words of encouragement and love.

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Summing up a Husbands 3 Basic Needs

I read in Dr. Leman's Book "7 things he'll never tell you {but you need to know}" that my husband has three basic needs:

1. Respect
2. to feel Needed
3. to be fulfilled

I have been thinking long and hard about my part in meeting these needs. The summary of what I have come up with is below.
  • Respect means: to feel or show deferential regard for; esteem
    to avoid violation of or interference with... such as in respecting the speed limit
    to relate or refer to; concern... So, show concern for what my husband feels and thinks, esteem him, try not to violate his sense of right and wrong, regard him as highly important and refer to him often. Put him first and foremost in my life.
  • Need is defined as: "A lack of something required or desirable 2. Something required or wanted; a requisite 3. Necessity "... So, make sure my husband knows he is a necessity in my life. He likes to do things for me... let him... even if he does not do it how I would do it... He is that important. And, tell him how much I need him to help me... because I really do. I am not super woman.
  • Fulfilled... (this one really boggled me) means, "To bring into actuality; effect: fulfilled their promises. To measure up to; satisfy. To bring to an end; complete." According to Dr. Leman I need to be a willing wife sexually for my husband to feel fulfilled... So, flirt often, carry through, and make enjoyment known.

Until next time...

Monday, May 10, 2010

Husband Encouragement for Week of May 10, 2010

Husband Encouragement

  • Fulfill Him/Flirt and carry through
  • Make him feel needed... don't try to do it all myself... ask for help and tell him how I need his help.
  • Make sure he gets his showers when he first gets home from work.
  • Speak to him with a tone of admiration.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Husband Encouragement for the Week of May 3

Husband encouragement goals:
  1. Say something that I admire about my husband to him.
  2. Say something that I admire about my husband in front of him to others.
  3. Don't say anything negative about my husband to my husband
  4. Don't say anything negative about my husband to other people.
  5. Tell him how I need him.
  6. Take his advice... even if it is hard.
  7. Tell him thank you for the things he does for me... dishes, clothes, cleaning, support...
  8. Pan sear him a steak.