Husband Encouragement for Week of May 24

Husband Encouragement

• Find one way to bless him everyday.
  
• Pray that he hears from God and has close fellowship with Him everyday.
  
• Admire him and speak to him through the "lenses" of admiration.
  
• Show him how I need him and thank him often.
  
• Wear something special for him.

Husband Encouragement for Week of May 17

• Submit to him as to the Lord.
• Put his needs above my own not matter how I feel!
• Fold laundry
• Have a joyful and inviting spirit both in the morning and when I pick him up from work.
• Ask him how his day was and allow him to relax and take a shower before any demands are put on him, as well as not dumping my day on him until he asks.
• Do something special for him everyday…
• Pray diligently for him through out the day, for him to be a light at work and for his faith and decisions.
• Strive to have a meek and quiet spirit!!
• Speak only words of encouragement and love.

Summing up a Husbands 3 Basic Needs

I read in Dr. Leman's Book "7 things he'll never tell you {but you need to know}" that my husband has three basic needs:

1. Respect
2. to feel Needed
3. to be fulfilled

I have been thinking long and hard about my part in meeting these needs. The summary of what I have come up with is below.

• Respect means: to feel or show deferential regard for; esteem
  to avoid violation of or interference with... such as in respecting the speed limit
  to relate or refer to; concern... So, show concern for what my husband feels and thinks, esteem him, try not to violate his sense of right and wrong, regard him as highly important and refer to him often. Put him first and foremost in my life.
• Need is defined as: "A lack of something required or desirable 2. Something required or wanted; a requisite 3. Necessity "... So, make sure my husband knows he is a necessity in my life. He likes to do things for me... let him... even if he does not do it how I would do it... He is that important. And, tell him how much I need him to help me... because I really do. I am not super woman.
• Fulfilled... (this one really boggled me) means, "To bring into actuality; effect: fulfilled their promises. To measure up to; satisfy. To bring to an end; complete." According to Dr. Leman I need to be a willing wife sexually for my husband to feel fulfilled... So, flirt often, carry through, and make enjoyment known.

Until next time...

Husband Encouragement for Week of May 10, 2010

Husband Encouragement

• Fulfill Him/Flirt and carry through
  
• Make him feel needed... don't try to do it all myself... ask for help and tell him how I need his help.
  
• Make sure he gets his showers when he first gets home from work.
  
• Speak to him with a tone of admiration.

Husband Encouragement for the Week of May 3

Husband encouragement goals:

1. Say something that I admire about my husband to him.
2. Say something that I admire about my husband in front of him to others.
3. Don't say anything negative about my husband to my husband
4. Don't say anything negative about my husband to other people.
5. Tell him how I need him.
6. Take his advice... even if it is hard.
7. Tell him thank you for the things he does for me... dishes, clothes, cleaning, support...
8. Pan sear him a steak.
   

Recognizing Love Exercises

In Dr. Kevin Leman's book "7 Things He'll Never Tell You {but you need to know}, he asks the question, "What kind of things does your husband do for you that show he really cares?" He immediately follows it with the question, "What kinds of things can you do for him that show you really care?" When I read that today I thought, "What a great set of questions to ask!" It is easy to get to going each day and forget to really think about these things and to not really show love or feel love. So here goes with my two lists...

Things my husband does for me that show he really cares:

• Does the dishes every night.
• Gets up consistently at 6:40 AM so that I can be on time for work at 8:00 since I need to give him a ride to his work... even though he doesn't have to be at work until 8:30 AM.
• Eats whatever I fix... even if it is fish which he doesn't really like.
• Brags on my food.
• Makes time to spend with me.
• Works on solving storage problems for me.
• Does my laundry.
• Gives great hugs.
• Tries to be on time for church... even though it goes against his nature and personality.
• Watches TV... he doesn't like to, but he knows that I do.
• Wishes he could buy me flowers.
• Tells me he is in it with me when things get really harry and bad.
• Takes a shower... even when he doesn't think he needs one, but I do.

Things I can do for my husband to show I really care:

• Cook food that he likes.
• Make snacks that he really likes.
• Make sure he doesn't forget his lunch.
• Take time out for him everyday... even when it doesn't seem possible.
• Listen to his dreams.
• Listen to his techno talk.
• Bike with him.
• Give him lots of hugs.
• Tell him how I need him.
• Treat him like the most important thing in my life.
• Respect his individuality, needs, and opinions.
• Let him fail... don't impress my perfectionist tendencies on him.

This was a good exercise. I would challenge any married person to take it.

Until next time...

Husband Encouragement Goals for week of April 26

Husband Encouragement Goals

1. Show him respect. By my actions, the way I phrase questions and speak to him, show him that I value his opinions, what he thinks, and how he feels.
2. Tell him & show him he is needed... often.
3. Work at getting the house cleaner.
4. Try not to use too many dishes.
5. Make him a really good snack.
6. Make an effort to show him more affection even in the midst of our hectic life.