Husband Encouragement Goals for week of April 26

Husband Encouragement Goals

1. Show him respect. By my actions, the way I phrase questions and speak to him, show him that I value his opinions, what he thinks, and how he feels.
2. Tell him & show him he is needed... often.
3. Work at getting the house cleaner.
4. Try not to use too many dishes.
5. Make him a really good snack.
6. Make an effort to show him more affection even in the midst of our hectic life.

Homework for Week of January 10, 2010

1. Practice treating my husband with esteem. Show him that he is important to me. Three ways I plan to do that are:

• Enjoy tonight as he takes me out for my birthday, and show him that I enjoy it with my actions and words.
• Hold my tongue more and/or speak to him as if he is a highly respected boss that I would not raise my voice to. Temper my words or let them go.
• If he doesn't do something, let it go... as many times as I can. Don't get discouraged when I fail... just let the next thing go until it becomes easy.

2. Join my husband in things that he enjoys. Three ways I plan to do that:

• Listen intently as he talks about his technical drawings.
• Make him dessert at least one day this week.
• Go to see Avitar with him again.

3 Things I can Respond to my Husband in front of Others

List three things you can respond to your husband in front of others that will show a heart of respect and honor toward him.

1. You're right.
2. What do you think is best?
3. Praise what he does and how he lives his beliefs to others in front of him.
   

Loving & Respecting my Husband Homework... Continued

Thursday's homework was to write down three things about your appearance that you can change, which he is sure to like.

1. Shave more often.
2. Get dressed up just to go out with him.
3. Wear my hair down long the way he likes it.

Friday's Homework (that I did not get poasted on Friday) was: List three things that you can do to your house that will please him.

1. Get him a new shower curtin.
2. Let him pick where some things go in the kitchen.
3. Get all my stuff out of "his" room/office so that he can have his space.

Saturday's Homework is to write three things you can do that will make him feel like he is THE MAN.

1. Bake for him more often.
2. Praise the things he does for me to him and brag to others about how great he is to me.
3. Be more willing to do what he says. Esteem or think highly of how he wants to do things and what he wants done. Differ to him more often.

And...

Sunday's Homework is to plan three things you can respond to him in front of others that will show a heart of respect and honor toward him.

Until next time...

3 Things I can do to Encourage my Husband

Yesterday, my homework was to write down three things that I can do that will be an encouragement to my husband. Here they are:

• Praise him. Complement what he has done. Complement him on trying to do stuff. Complement his heart on wanting to do stuff. Praise him. Make him feel good about who he is and what he does, but be careful to be sincere. He will know if I am not.
• Touch him more. One of his primary love languages is physical touch. So, even though I am busy and might not be in the mood to be affectionate, make sure I spend time everyday being affectionate to him... and especially don't push him away when he approaches me.
• Put notes in his lunch box just to say "I love you, and I'm thankful for you."

Today's homework:

Write down three things about your appearance that you can change, which he is sure to like.

How to Properly Appreciate and not Interfeer with My Husband.

Yesterday, I gave myself two questions to answer for homework. They required a lot of thought and prayer. Here are my answers.

The first question I ask myself to answer was to list one way I can show appreciation for my husband. Well, one way I can show appreciation for my husband is through my speech to him and others. I have come to realize after my prayer that he really needs to hear me praise him. Last night I started by praising him to his mom and dad while we were at their house visiting. However, I have come to realize that I need to make a conscious effort to sincerely praise him everyday. This will not be easy. I have high expectations. I am a perfectionist. But, my husband is worth it. That is the decision I have to make. He is worth it, and he needs it. So, I make the decision today to find ways to praise him and to brag on him and to mean it.

The second question I gave myself involved figuring out how to "not interfere" with my husband or how to not be a hindrance or an obstacle. Well... the answer that God showed me for this one will not be easy. It involves submission. As I looked up submission, this is what I found:

• Submission - The act of submitting to the power of another, or the state of being compliant; meekness. Synonyms are pliancy (easily bent or flexed; easily altered or modified to fit conditions; yielding readily to influence), softness (easily molded; not loud, harsh or irritating; a gentle disposition, tender) , goodness (the state of being good; beneficial), tameness (brought from wildness into a domesticated state; naturally unafraid), humility (modesty in behavior, attitude, or spirit; not arrogant or prideful; showing deferential).

While I was searching and thinking about all this, I came across this scripture:

• Spirit-Guided Relationships: Wives and Husbands ~ Ephesians 5:21-24, "And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything."

What I discovered is that I should be easily bent, flexed or modified to the influence of my husband. I should be soft, not hard, harsh, or loud. I should be tender. I should be beneficial to him and humble practicing modesty in my behavior, my attitude, and my spirit.

There are times that this is easy to do. Like... when he is planning a date.

However, most of the time this is hard because our wills clash. I lived alone for a long time before getting married. When we got married, he moved in to "my house", so I have felt like things should be done my way... especially in the kitchen. That is my domain. Then there is my car. I have a relatively new car. He has an old clunker. Not long after we were married, his car quit working. So, we have been sharing one car... my car. The list could go on. I am used to taking care of me. I have lived alone for a long time. I have developed my way of doing things from many trials and mistakes. I do not want to live through these mistakes again. It is hard to sit back and let him be bull headed and mess up "my stuff".

However, God is showing me that I need to be flexible... for the sake of my husband... he is more important than the stuff. I need to make sure that if I do say something about the way things are done, it is in a soft tone... not hard, harsh or loud. I need to be tender in the way I deal with everyday scheduling and stuff. I need to practice modesty in my behavior, attitude, and spirit and not let him rial me up because things have to be done my way, and I think I'm right.

Boy or boy is this going to be hard!

So my answer to my question of how to not interfere with my husband is to let him be him. Let him do things his way. Simple answer to write. Hard answer to carry out.

Homework for tonight. I read these on another website (http://inlightofthetruth.blogspot.com/) and was inspired to try them for myself. There are 7 questions or assignments. I'm going to try to do one a night. They go Monday - Sunday. Since it is Wednesday, I am starting with Wednesday.

Wednesday: Write down three things you can do that will be an encouragement to your husband.

Until next time...